Making Progress with Flaws and All

Apostrophe Girl
3 min readJun 25, 2021

The struggle is real when it comes to our flaws. Nobody’s perfect and these small “imperfections” makes us who we are. But are those somewhat stopping us from progress?

This is the question I’ve been asking myself over and over again. And there’s no single, straightforward answer to this. What I believe here is that you should sum up, list and put those flaws up front, wear a judge’s hat and start seeing what stops you.

So here’s my list and what I have come up with so far:

Lack of consistency: Can’t think of something that I have been doing on a regular basis long term. Whatever I start doing, I simply cannot stick to it. Making myself do something on a regular basis is such a hard task, that I put on extra time and efforts and it makes me overly tired. One way I tried to avoid it is to start with something I love- running. Have scheduled runs and sticking to those has been my favorite thing since the second week of January. The progress is obvious.

Lack of tolerance toward superstitions . I hate when people believe in unreal things, such as black cats, evil eye, sitting at the corner of the table, whistling, broken mirror and etc. To me believing in those things is equal to avoiding responsibility. The situations is there due to the actions and decisions made, no black cat is ever responsible for failure. People should stop putting the responsibility on cats or evil eye, recognizing the failure is a beautiful step towards growth. Can’t fight this, won’t fight this one.

Being Stubborn. This is as simple as one might believe — sometimes I do whatever it takes to make a point , though the original did, original idea or thought turns out to be not worth it. It’s like making a magical spell, trying to find and combine all of the ingredients, while you cannot find unicorn tears or you don’t even believe in that. Hopefully at some point, this will change for better or worse.

Over-analyzing. Have you ever caught yourself analyzing the situation from different points of views, like those of involved, those of who could be there or from the point of view of the chair standing the situational room? Well, that’s how over-analyzing is working. Total waste of time and nerves.

Perfectionism towards weird things. When you put on a post and there is a sentence or two that do no sound that right in a story of 1000+ words, what do you do? Edit it or leave it? Or you delete it as I used to do. That’s the main reason why I always post the written texts on the same day I write them.

When you are strong enough to withstand the negative habits, you turn into a better human being.

Aloha, Sona

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